Next Year Baby

I end this year bitterly hopeful about the next. I could make a list of resolutions a mile long and then break every one of them because I'm sure there are many things in this life I should resolve to change. If I'm honest though, there are not that many things I need to change in order to achieve happiness or fulfillment.

Yes, I need to lose a few pounds but my weight hasn't plagued my soul. It has just prevented me from being hot or the best looking one in the room...she probably isn't that happy either. So, I want to get into better shape and if that means I lose weight and look better, awesome. That's resolution 1.

Yes, I need to be better with money and spend less on stupid things but I like those stupid things and money can't buy...
Still, I can be a bit more responsible with money. That's resolution 2.

Yes, I really should drink less. Coffee, whiskey, everything but water. Maybe I'll shoot for that one again. I dunno. I went for 5 months with no alcohol once and 3 months another time. It was a better life so I'll try again. I won't stop, but I'll slow down. That's resolution 3.

Those are simple enough resolutions to make...just to try to be better in those aspects. I read a lot now and will keep doing so. Overall it was a decent year and I can make next year even better.

The last resolution I'll make may seem strange but given the past few years, it makes perfect sense. It is to not be involved with anyone who is involved with someone else whether they are just dating, engaged or married. If I don't know initially then find out (which hopefully never happens again) I'll take loneliness and marry it before I compromise myself again. One lesson I've learned is that a great way to lose a friend is to make that friend into a lover. It took a while but friendship can never be regained. A lover can be an acquaintance and a casual one at that but not a friend.

I am afraid as I get out there and date that I'll be plagued with relationships that end in infidelity as some sort of karmic retribution from the universe. My fingers are crossed though and I'll take what I deserve if I deserve anything less than love. I know what I don't want now and think I know what I want too. I hope losing so far is enough and I am allowed to move on with a guilt that is punishment enough for the things I have done. Eventually it should all balance out on both ends though sadly so far the casualty has been me. That is resolution number 4.

As you make your resolutions or ignore the tradition, try to make each day a good one in 2008 and beyond.

A favorite artist of mine is Jamie Cullum and I enjoy the lyric below as it kind of sums up what I'd like to do this year and the above entry is a start:


Next year, things are gonna change
Gonna drink less beer, and start all over again
Gonna read more books, gonna keep up with the news
Gonna learn how to cook, spend less money on shoes
I’ll pay my bills on time,and file my mail away, everyday
Only drink the finest wine,and call my Gran every Sunday

Resolutions, baby they come and go
Will I do any of these things? The answers probably no
If there’s one thing I must do, despite my greatest fears
I’m gonna say to you, how I felt all of these years
Next Year
Next Year

Target Holidays

I went around looking for a particular, old school board game and Target had it on sale this week. I'd list it here but I don't want the person I was getting it for to find out just yet (Christmas isn't here yet folks.)

I went to 3 different Target stores in Fresno and had my sister look in Valencia too. Nowhere to be found! But, all this time in Target reminded me of my favorite SNL skit in recent years. Check it out below...and if I can find the "Schweaty" skits, there will be more to come this week.



Happy Holidays!

The Leader of the Band...

Dan Fogelberg passed away after a battle with cancer. I would hope that he didn't suffer greatly but I am sure that he did. I have seen it in a man his age before and cancer, deadly or otherwise, is so, so ugly.

Fogelberg was beautiful though, in his voice and showed a realism in his lyrics. I have enjoyed a few of his songs very much. One I would say, has been influential on me and they way I attempt to write (privately, not here).

ABC News covers a bit on Fogelberg.

Among my favorite of his songs (and probably his most famous):
Leader of the Band
Same Old Lang Syne
Rhythm of the Rain
Longer

Same Old Lang Syne (lyrics)

Met my old lover in the grocery store
The snow was falling christmas eve
I stole behind her in the frozen foods
And I touched her on the sleeve

She didnt recognize the face at first
But then her eyes flew open wide
She went to hug me and she spilled her purse
And we laughed until we cried.

We took her groceries to the checkout stand
The food was totalled up and bagged
We stood there lost in our embarrassment
As the conversation dragged.

We went to have ourselves a drink or two
But couldnt find an open bar
We bought a six-pack at the liquor store
And we drank it in her car.

We drank a toast to innocence
We drank a toast to now
And tried to reach beyond the emptiness
But neither one knew how.

She said shed married her an architect
Who kept her warm and safe and dry
She would have liked to say she loved the man
But she didnt like to lie.

I said the years had been a friend to her
And that her eyes were still as blue
But in those eyes I wasnt sure if I saw
Doubt or gratitude.

She said she saw me in the record stores
And that I must be doing well
I said the audience was heavenly
But the traveling was hell.

We drank a toast to innocence
We drank a toast to now
And tried to reach beyond the emptiness
But neither one knew how.

We drank a toast to innocence
We drank a toast to time
Reliving in our eloquence
Another auld lang syne...

The beer was empty and our tongues were tired
And running out of things to say
She gave a kiss to me as I got out
And I watched her drive away.

Just for a moment I was back at school
And felt that old familiar pain
And as I turned to make my way back home
The snow turned into rain --

These Few Things...

It has been a while. I feel like I have abandoned most things in the last month, not to mention this blog. I have a ton I think about writing and if I had an iPhone, I might just send everything to my blog as it came to me, like the people in the commercials seem to do. There would be danger in that I suppose since some of my thoughts are not meant for general broadcast and time to think before I speak (write) is uaually valuable and lends to less regret.

I've seen few films as of late but the two I did see were great:

Enchanted is Disney's latest vehicle and craftily blends and animated storyline with live action. Disney characters have come to life before at Disneyland but they haven't been injected into our reality as they are in this film. It is a spoof of the fairy tale happily-ever-after story that I have certainly never experienced but still allows for the happy ending that I somehow still love to see! This isnt just a chick-flick but could be a good date movie. I can't see a group of dudes piling into the theater to check it out but if your gal wants to go, you'll have fun to. Amy Adams was a delight in her role and Patrick Dempsey was a dreamy as he could get without Dr. Grey lurking in an elevator at Seattle Grace waiting to see him.

No Country for Old Men is by far my favorite film of the year, friend-o. Javier Bardem is completely unrelenting and eerily natural in his portrayal of a man willing to kill anyone to get back the money that belongs to him. I don't want to say much because it is one to just see and then talk about with other people who have seen it and feel as creeped out as you do once they have. Tommy Lee Jones is consistent and plays the Texas Sherriff the way we've come to expect. Josh Brolin gave me the biggest shock on film in recent years because he was actually good. I have been pleasantly surprised by some performances but for all I don't like about Brolin, he was undeniably good in this one.

Atonement is one I haven't seen yet but NEED to see because of the Golden Globe noms. I already recommend it.

The Bucket List is due out on Christmas and teams up Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. I cannot wait. It is the thing I'm most looking forward to on Christmas Day.

Speaking of Nicholson, this month's Men's Journal (cover not on the site yet but it is on newsstands) features Jack on its cover. The interview with Jack, getting his opnion of various aspects of being a man, was entertaining and compelling at once. It gave a great insight (as much as Jack will give) into the man who is a legend. If I were a man, he's one man I'd want to be. I recommend the article to men mostly and also women who are interested.

Last, I am nearly in the holiday spirit though I'm away from home and not going to be there anytime soon, missing the time with family, missing the tree decorating and behind on sending Christmas cards. Yesterday a colleague invited me to go work a toy drive with her and it was a rewarding experience. We didn't get to see the kids receiving the toys but we wrapped probably 60 gifts at least and I felt good about it. It is one of those times for giving and though I would like to think I donate my time and give what I can, I don't unless the opportunity is easy and obvious sometimes as it was in this case. Still, I'm glad I didn't sleep in (beleive me, with jet lag I'd have liked to) and went out yesterday morning. It was a lovely time.

Happy Holidays all...I'll hopefully have time to say hello from the road.

Employment

Hello Reader,

At least one day a week do you find yourself at work? Working? Doing work? If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of the questions, you are not alone. You are one of millions who are employed in the U.S. The problem of employment hits all age, ethnic and socioeconomic groups. In the U.S., only the very young are not afflicted. The same cannot be said for children elsewhere. In all, there is little that can be done to combat the employment issue and its solution is so puzzling that our government officials will not even talk about it. They only speak of the “unemployment” issue. Meanwhile, people all over the U.S. and the world continue working. Side-effects include stress, burnout and missed social opportunities.

If you or someone you know is over-worked, please write your Congressperson. They could be over-employed as well and that should not be happening in this great nation of ours. Over-employment is also not getting the national attention it deserves. I have not yet chosen a Presidential candidate to support because besides healthcare, the issue of employment is not being addressed and until I hear someone take a stand, I will reserve providing the obvious weight of my support to any and all campaigns. Yes, Oprah has elected to publicly support Obama and that did get a lot of media attention. Despite pressure from media outlets, I am still waiting to exhale and with that breath expel the name of the candidate I will vote for. Stay tuned and stay well.

WGA

Writers are on strike in Hollywood and in the face of reality TV and new media, they are fighting for the present and the future. For more information on the strike and to support the WGA, visit United Hollywood. In an unprecedented motion of solidarity SAG and the Teamsters have joined the WGA on the picket line rather than moved across.

I have viewed many episodes of my favorite shows online in recent months because I haven't been able to capture them on Tivo or because I don't have the channel they're on. My commitment is to stop until the writers are getting paid. If we all stop viewing, the advertisers will have no reason to buy time on the websites and in a small gesture we can help the writers be heard. I hope to be one of them one day and I stand behind them.

There are many videos posted by wgaamerica and at the site above. Check out the stars and writers supporting each other including members of The Office, Scrubs and Grey's. Here is one of the best in my opinion, Garry Marshall:

Phantom Siren

I go to Starbucks at least once a day and this has never happened to me. I got a cup that was misprinted. It almost frightened me and would have if I were superstitious. I'm sure there's some belief of bad luck related to a Starbucks cup. Anyway, this was a strange cup and I had to take a picture and share.

Torre's a Dodger!

Just released in the Dodgers Newsletter:

The Los Angeles Dodgers announced today that Joe Torre has been named the club's field manager through the 2010 season. Torre becomes the 26th manager in franchise history.

"Joe Torre is one of the most respected men in the game of baseball," said Dodger Owner and Chairman Frank McCourt. "As we celebrate the 50th Anniversary of the Dodgers moving to Los Angeles, we will again have a Hall of Fame caliber manager at the helm. Joe's dedication, desire and ability will help lead the Dodgers to our ultimate goal - a World Championship."

This is pretty exciting for a life-long Dodger fan. I don't really follow sports other than baseball and since 1999 I haven't followed it very closely but if a Dodger game is on I'll catch part of it and my fondest childhood memories take place mostly at Dodger Stadium so this new excites me.

Horoscope

Some days my horoscope is ominous and some days it is promising but in either case about 3 out of 7 days, it just pans out. I suppose I could read into it and make it work out everyday whether that were a good or bad thing but in the case of nearly half my week, I don't need to. I wonder how the horoscope I read gets made up and if I had ever Taurus I know read the same one, if the results would be the same for them. Would reading other signs' horoscopes and then only hanging with people who had a decent horoscope make my life less dramatic or even more fun? I wonder. Regardless, I read ahead to Sunday and am pretty excited about the part of the day I have before work. My horoscope aligns well with the plans I have and if it all works out, I'm in for a meaningful day.

Good weekend to you.

Dan in Reel Life

This is just a quick one to recommend the film "Dan in Real Life" to everyone whether you're a "Dan" or not. The ever-endearing Steve Carell stars in this fun and "heartfelt" film about Dan, a widower and advice columnist who ultimately could stand to follow his own advice if not his heart. Juliette Binoche is lovely as the love interest. Dane Cook, John Mahoney and Diane Weist are among the cast. Speaking of the cast, the film was well cast right down to the children in the film. The kids did a great job and in the case of Dan's daughters, could have over-acted teen angst but instead they portrayed their characters perfectly.

This is a film the whole family can see which is a welcome change of pace from most films. There was a good balance of amusement, romance and drama making it a film that anyone can enjoy. I'm glad I happened to catch the sneak preview tonight. It made me feel warm.

Genesis Meets the Hollywood Bowl

Phil Collins took over as Genesis' front man in 1975, 4 years before I was born. I missed the Gabriel (called by some "glory") days of the band the first time around and missed Phil's debut. I didn't discover Genesis until I saw the "Land of Confusion" video for the first time and bought "And Then There Were Three..." after hearing "Follow You, Follow Me" which many fans would not consider their best song. Still, all in all I'd say that I've evolved into a respectable fan of the band and was thrilled to see them at the Hollywood Bowl this past Friday night.

The Hollywood Bowl is one of my favorite music venues. I see about 30 shows a year and despite the traffic and hassle, I can't say I love a place much more. Seeing Genesis there was magic.

Right from the beginning, it was a great musical show. Had Phil and the band left vocals aside, it would have been a fantastic show. They were really, really playing and Genesis' catalogue allows for long musical sets which incorporate all of the talented musicians. Right up through a drum duet between Phil and Chester Thompson the music engaged me, excited me and consistently left me wanting more. Plus, they did some of my favorite songs and a song that wasn't expected (based on set lists posted from previous shows) which was my companion's favorite. It was a great set.

Despite a great show, it was also a show that was victimized by unusual weather. On tickets for outdoor venues, there is always that "rain or shine" disclaimer that one reads and scoffs at because let's face it, it never rains in Southern California. Overall that is true but Friday night was the exception. At first the rain fell only slightly, getting everyone wet but not wet enough to ruin the show. Then, it began to rain hard. The audience was soaked, Tony Banks' keyboards were outfitted with an umbrella and Mike Rutherford and Daryl Struermer were close by seeking cover where they could. Still, the crowd was digging the show and things kept moving.

Finally, once everyone was soaked to the skin and the stage was marred with standing water, Phil announced that they could not continue. The show was cut short! No "I Can't Dance/Carpet Crawlers" encore and no more music in general. The Hollywood Bowl sound people were kind enough to toss some Phil onto the speakers for the exiting crowd but the show was done and for a moment, we were left hanging.

The show did have to end though. The weather didn't get any better and L.A. traffic after the show became L.A. traffic with rain.

All in all, it was a show I am so glad I didn't miss and so glad I got to share with a friend. It was my 4th time seeing Phil and sadly my first time seeing Genesis. I hope they get together again in a few years. They've aged well and seemed to be enjoying themselves and that, even under a rain cloud, made all the difference.

I Slept Wrong

You know when you sleep wrong and have a crick in your neck? That is enough of an inconvenience when you have an office job, need to switch lanes or for some other reason have to turn your head quickly. What if you were a Cirque du Soleil performer? I think then sleeping wrong would be nearly a tragedy. Just a random thought...

Not that it changes my mind...

A friend who read my blog chose not to support me not due to financial reasons or general disinterest, but because Komen supports Planned Parenthood and therefore abortions and death (not my words). Thanks to her though, I did some research and found that Komen did issue a grant to a Planned Parenthood clinic in Texas (I take more exception to Texas at this point!). I am glad she let me know because this has been an interesting morning of research for me.

Here is what I have to say:

I think it is important to know exactly where the money you are sending to an organization is going. The national Komen organization is funded partly by local organizations but partly by direct donations to them. You can support your local Komen chapter and even find out where your funds would be allocated without worrying about later implications of the money.

The money to Planned Parenthood is going to breast education for low-income people who use the clinic not simply for abortions but also for their health. To limit the scope of Planned's work to just abortions is discrediting the organization based on only one aspect. Doctors perform procedures that one may not agree with but we still see them for our own health. The women who use Planned Parenthood are entering an environment that they feel is safe for them, that they can afford. Healthcare is very complicated and Planned is better than the County clinic or no care at all. The more we can do to educate and prevent illness, the better.

Below is the article on the grant by Komen. I hope you feel a bit better about your donation. I participate in Race for the Cure annually and am very proud of it. If you'd like to donate, please visit my page.

Planned Parenthood Receives Breast Cancer Health Screening Grant

from Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Fund

Project targets low risk women ages 18-34

The Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Fund has selected Planned Parenthood of the Texas Capital Region to receive a $17,000 grant to provide affordable and prompt breast health education and evaluations to low-income, low risk women ages 18 to 34.

With the Komen for the Cure’s grant, Planned Parenthood will provide valuable breast education and screening for Austin area women in 2007. Young women often fear the worst regarding their breast health. When they detect an unusual lump or thickening, they may not be able to distinguish between normal tissue and suspicious masses. These women often seek out complex diagnostics, creating an unnecessary expense for the patient as well as the health care system. Planned Parenthood seeks to interrupt this sequence of events by providing prompt and affordable breast evaluation and management services to low risk women. The breast evaluation and management services covered by the grant will include breast cancer risk assessment, a breast exam, breast education with nutrition and health counseling, a follow-up exam, and referral when needed.

Komen Fund 2007 grant recipients include the American Cancer Society, Breast Cancer Resource Center of Austin, Wright House Wellness Center, and Services for the Elderly.

Donate to Race for the Cure

I know I asked for money earlier this year, for MS. The other cause that is close to my heart, is breast cancer. Please visit my fundraising page for this year's Race for the Cure and if you can, join our team or donate.

My company, ProFlowers, will match your donation dollar for dollar and you can help people living with cancer and help find a cure!

If you aren't yet compelled, here is some of what you'll find on my page:

Know anyone who has breast cancer? Know anyone who has had breast cancer? Know anyone who has breasts?

If you answered "Yes" to one or more of the above questions, then I'd like you to consider a donation to ProFlowers Pink Parade, the Race for the Cure team I am proudly walking with in a month. Even a few dollars will be appreciated!

Thank you for reading and I appreciate your time and your help.

Death in Real Life

Cancer has taken another person i've known since childhood. This time it was the first neighbor I remember. He helped my mom put my swingset together when my dad "real" dad wasn't there and was very fond of my family. Ironically, my (step)dad went over to his house to visit him today. He went on his own, without my mom or anyone and I am glad he did. I wonder what the death of his friend feels like for him. I know what it feels like for me. It hurts but I am relieved that he is no longer in pain. I feel regret too because I didn't get over to see him in time. I'm glad I communicated at all but should have gone. I feel sadness because I am reminded of the last time I lost someone to this disease. I do wonder though what it feels like now for my dad because the fact that he was over there today meant that he cared more than I would have thought he really cared about anything. I feel bad that my dad lost his friend.

Harry is someone I haven't seen often recently but was someone who was there for the important events. He and his wife were a special couple because I always enjoyed being with both of them. Usually I favor one half of a couple more than the other but not in this case.

If you're still reading about this stranger, it may be because you can relate. If there is someone you haven't seen lately but have meant to, just take the time. That hour it seems you just don't have will be spent later thinking about them when it could have been used wisely in their company.

Death at a Funeral

Death at a Funeral is a very funny film by Frank Oz (Bowfinger, In & Out, What About Bob?). British comedy suits this Brit who though British himself has ventured mostly in American film and television.

At times hilarious, Death at a Funeral marries dry humor with a little of the immature drug and bathroom humor audiences seem to love and it's really perfect. The overall story is the patriarch of a slightly dysfunctional family dies leaving behind a little secret that appears the day of his funeral.

I say definitely check this one out!

Fall TV

Where did the summer go? Where did most of September go? It flew by for me and I can't believe the new television season is coming up so soon. Some shows have already started and I don't even have my TIvo queue cleared from last season. I'll have to dedicate a weekend to that soon!

Anyway, here's what I'm looking forward to this season:

Back to You: Kelsey Grammer is back in a sitcom for the first time since my favorite show, Frasier, ended several years back. I've missed Kelsey and can't wait for the debut. Look for this one, also starring Patricia Heaton, starting the 19th at 9pm on FOX. In addition to Kelsey and Heaton, Fred Williard stars as well and for me he is always a delight.

Curb Your Enthusiasm: I've put the word out to my friends with HBO that I need to catch this show and so far so good. I just finished watching the first episode of this season and Larry David is as outrageous as ever. The problem with the show is it makes me so uncomfortable that I can't even quote my favorite line from the episode here. It was great though.

Tell Me You Love Me: HBO's newest drama is sexy and sad and delicious and another reason I might need to make an investment in expanding my cable package. I caught the first episode and it was such a well done, real show that I know if anything I'm grabbing the DVD's as soon as they're out. It is about sex and love and how theyir affect on several couples. If you can, try it once and tell me you love it!

The Office: The NBC hit show is still a fav of mine and I really, really want to know what is next for Jim and Pam (aka "Jam"), and Dwight and Michael too. If you need a fix before the season starts, check out the Summer Vacation webisode available online now. It's worth the 2 minutes.

Brothers and Sisters: Sally Field and Calista Flockhart only begin to tell this ABC drama's story. A strong cast and several intriguing storylines brought this show back for a 2nd season. Rob Lowe was a mid-season addition to the cast and a very welcome one. The Walkers are a cool family with as much right about them as is wrong and I feel at home with them every Sunday evening.

Private Practice: In all honesty, I don't have much hope for this Grey's Anatomy spin-off but I do have a feeling that I'll enjoy it as long as it lasts. Addison Shepard became my favorite Grey's character and I am disappointed that she's left the show but if her move to L.A. pans out well, Practice will be a welcome regular on my Tivo line-up. Tim Daly and Taye Diggs make the show all the more appealing.

Big Shots: More comebacks to network television come with Dylan McDermott and Michael Vartan when they return to ABC in a new drama series. I haven't seen a preview, only a print ad in People magazine but with those two guys the storyline won't much matter to me for at least the first week.

I have not watched tv all summer which is why I still have to catch up on last season but I have a feeling that my reduced watching will soon come to an end as the seasons start again. There are many more shows I'm looking forward to but above are my top picks for good viewing this fall.

Set up your Season Passes and cancel your prime time plans. This season on every major network looks promising.

John Corbett and Me

Unfortunately I didn't pack my camera on my trip to West Virginia. There was a photographer on hand so here you can see a pic of me with John Corbett after his performance. He and his band were fun and showed the crowd a real good time. :) The interview with him will be up on piratepods.com in the next few weeks. This was one of many highlights I hope to share.

West Virginia Welcomes John Corbett

Where have I been? Well, I've been busy with work (my day job) and pursuing my dreams (music interview podcasting). The former has had me traveling for the past couple of week snad the latter has provided me the chance to go to West Virginia for an extraordinary long weekend filled with music and a look at the mountain state. I'll write more about it later but I can say that I am inspired as a look out the window of the home office I am stationed at and see only trees...no buildings, no people, just natural beauty.

One of many highlights was meeting John Corbett at a concert he did to benefit the building of a skate park in the city of Fayetteville. He was a cool guy and I'll be posting an interview with him sometime soon at piratepods.com. Click on his name to see a few pics of John the musician.

More to come...

Chili's...a place for business

This is one of those entries of very low importance. A personal entry just because I haven't had time all week to say anything at all. I spent the last 6.5 hours at Chili's. A few of us went to happy hour and then some people left and others arrived and soon it was 1030pm. I don't know if I wasted my time or just had a good time but nonetheless, I set a personal record for longest Chili's outing ever. It was good to just relax and be with friends so I think I'll just say I had a good time and wish you the best for a fun weekend yourself, whatever chain restaurant you visit!